Ep.86 Shadow Work Embracing Human and Plant Personalities

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Hello, Hello, everyone! Welcome back to another episode of reconnect with plant wisdom. It’s me, Tigrilla Gardenia.

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It is a chilly day here, as I’m getting ready to travel to warmer temperatures. Yay, so. But I wanted to come on. And I wanted to record this episode because well, because there’s just so much to talk about. There’s so much to talk about, so much to talk about. I get so excited I get so excited doing this. So in this episode. We’re going to explore a fascinating world

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shadow work.

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We’re going to really look at this. We’ve talked a little bit about this. We talked about it from Scototropism, and we talked about it in a few different ways. But in this particular episode I want to talk about it through the lens of human and plant personalities. This is something that I have been working on

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well for a long time, but only recently. Remember last episode, when I told you it takes me a while to take what I’m experiencing and what I am feeling, and how I am perceiving things and put them into coherent sentences.

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This is definitely one of those areas. I started working several years back on the subtle body and understanding personalities in a very organic way. Then I started to pick up different lessons and classes and different aspects of it. And now I finally feel like I’m ready to talk about this. As a matter of fact, I’ve been taking my clients

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through their various personalities with amazing results to understand these different parts of them. So in this particular episode, we’re going to delve into how understanding our deep patterns and our archetypes, right understanding who it is that my soul at my soul level.

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and then the many different personalities that have come in to incarnation in this particular life around that soul, help us achieve our life purpose, and how, working with plants, you can more easily bring these personalities into your consciousness, into your awareness.

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because the goal is really to move all your personalities into awareness. This is what we want to accomplish in life without judging them, without trying to label them in one way or another. It’s about recognizing that all of our personalities have a light and a dark side.

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and that these are not good nor bad, but they’re expressions that use different properties based on the need.

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the location, or the the event that’s happening, and the amount of them being used. Basically, when I think of a personality, I want to understand a given property that that personality has that I want to use?

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When do I use it?

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How much of it do I use.

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and what exactly am I using? So

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now I know that you have that we’ve heard so many different things about personalities. I’m going to be really honest and tell you the sources that I work from and where it is that I’m getting my information. And then how I’ve taken that information into myself and my work with plants and expand it out from there. So what I want to walk away with, and so many different aspects of this is about.

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See, I just did it. I just did it. I did it in front of your eyes where I had it all clear, and I can feel it in my body. And now I’m struggling to put it into words. It’s probably because my dominant personality, which I’m going to talk about a little bit more in this episode

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has a tendency to be a little critical about things, and

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I’m working with trying to get the dominant personality and the ego to more consciously work with all my different personalities, to elevate my ego to an aware or a conscious ego, depending on what words and terminology you use, that integrates all the aspects of my personalities into a harmonious whole.

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because when my personalities are integrated, then my personalities can better work together, and they can not only help me help me choose which one of their characteristics to use, but I can use combinations of those characteristics as well.

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So

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I could probably just present this in so many different ways. There’s so many different classes and opportunities to get into this, especially in the naturally conscious community where I talk about it all the time. So let’s explore

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how a plant experiences your personalities, which I think is one aspect of this that will really help us. And, more importantly, how is it that I can experience my personalities through my plantness, which, remember, we have already said, is, much is free of my conditioning, because my plantness lives in presence.

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and my plantness doesn’t have all of that sort of coloring around. The idea that this is right and this is wrong, and all these different aspects. My plantness is really about me being able to be in it, to be present and to evaluate from that state of here and now.

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So in this episode, let’s explore really how we can work with the shadow side of our personalities through the plant lens. And that’s why this is episode 86.

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Shadow work embracing human and plant personalities.

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Welcome to reconnect with plant wisdom.

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I’m your host, Tigrilla Gardenia, nature-inspired mentor, certified life coach, and the founder of the naturally conscious community.

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For over a decade I’ve been known as a world ambassador for plant advocacy.

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working closely with plants to share their practical wisdom, to help you consciously embody the elements of life, that nourish your evolution.

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In this podcast I delve into ancient and modern knowledge, from biology to spirituality, about the wondrous ways of plants.

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Together we’ll explore how ecosystem thinking helps you overcome limiting beliefs, understand the true nature of relationships and live an authentic, impactful life.

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Okay, before we begin, let me explain to you a little bit about the structure of the soul from the Dominhurian perspective. I know we’ve talked about this, but I it’s 1 of those things where it you would just.

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It takes a while to kind of get into it. So

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the way that the soul is made up from a person from a Dom and hurryan perspective is that we have our main aspect of what is our soul, which is a piece of the real, the All, and the nothing. But that’s another episode altogether. That, then, has a main pattern

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in nature. We would call it a deep pattern. In other kind of traditions we might call it an archetype. We call it an element. There are 163 different types of elements, and each one of our souls has an element, and that element

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is been chosen. My soul has connected and chosen that element, because that element is what is necessary for me to achieve my soul mission so, soul level from a Dominarian perspective, soul means I live across multiple lifetimes, and that element does not change.

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It never changes. It is what helps us and guides us and pushes us through each one of our lives, and in each one of our lives, as we come in through what we call the threshold into incarnation, my soul picks up

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a number of personalities that those personalities help with the life purpose. So I’m incarnating for a specific life in this specific life, that life has a purpose, that purpose is a piece of the bigger picture. That is my soul mission. And so I pick up a set of personalities that have different passions and different talents and different traits and characteristics, and all that deliciousness.

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So we often say, you’ll hear me say that, I said. Your passions are what helps you understand? What is your deep pattern? Your deep pattern is a piece that of

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that you fulfill this kind of combination of folks, that combination of passions and personalities and characteristics with your soul. Archetype or your soul element are what allows you to achieve this life purpose and that life purpose is a piece of the greater soul mission.

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Hopefully, that’s clear. It’s a very like very quick. I use this movement. If you’re watching me on the video, because in Italian it’s like this means in synthesis, like, let me just let me just give you the core essence of it. So that’s why I’m making that hand motion.

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And so when we think about personalities, many of us are taught that there are shadow and light personalities. These shadow and light personalities have lots of different types of terminologies. Some call them disowned, some, and everybody kind of has a different expression. And for our purposes, right now

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I want you to think of the fact that.

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Yes, there are. There’s kind of 2 layers to it. There’s each personality could be a personality that you have brought into the light. In other words, one that you readily access.

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and another personality could be a personality that you don’t. So in the shadows, a personality that you have pushed away, and you no longer access

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within. Though a personality, there are also characteristics that could be shadow and light, so not only can the personality in and of themselves be shadow or light.

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The actual personality might have traits that you consider to be good or bad, and therefore shadow and light.

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There’s also main personalities, secondary personalities, marginal personalities.

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There are so many concepts and so much work to be done around your personalities, and really getting to know your own personalities is such an important aspect of

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understanding yourself, and, more importantly, being conscious of the different pieces that you have to work on in order to achieve your

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life purpose. So by the end of this podcast I really want you to feel an awareness by understanding how the shadow work can integrate all these different aspects of your personalities, and how you can identify and understand hidden and unconscious parts of yourself, and by recognizing these parts.

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how you connect to them and integrate into them. And this helps you really lead a more cohesive and a harmonious self right, my life becomes much more harmonious.

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and my actions become much more cohesive or coherent, as you might say, because you have this awareness, and you understand what your personalities are kind of doing, what they’re meant to be doing, how exactly that they work. Think of it as reaching a super high level of emotional intelligence, another aspect that I want you to really

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feel as you’re, you know, listening to this episode is acceptance, a deep set of a deep sense of acceptance towards your own personalities, recognizing their values and

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really having that help, you foster compassion and self-love, because your personalities have a whole series of traits.

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and whether it’s the whole personality or like, I said, elements of that personality, and when you accept the full range of what your personalities have to offer, you get to, you know when you step away from judging them negatively. For example, this reduces your internal conflict, and also that self criticism that unfortunately, some of us live with

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pretty strongly, and when you reduce that level of internal conflict and self-criticism. It helps. You have a higher.

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I guess it’s a healthier self-esteem, and you know some mental and well-being your your mental well-being. But more than anything. It allows you to approach life with greater confidence, because you know that your personalities.

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how they function and how they work right, how it is that that you want to use even traits that might seem quote unquote, negative, or might seem bad.

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have a function and a use for them.

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And the last thing I really want you to feel in this episode is inspiration. I want you to feel inspired, to work with plants, to embrace your shadow self, to achieve that balance.

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And and remember, we’ve talked about balance a lot where balance from my perspective is not. Let me hold this balance in this stability, but it’s about flowing with it. It’s about allowing something to be constantly in balance and then out of balance and in balance and in out of balance, and allowing that movement for yourself, because

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this really motivates you to actively engage in practices that kind of push you towards more self-discovery, and especially more evolution and growth, because if you just go to balance.

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then you sort of get stuck there. But if you feel inspired to and comfortable enough through the acceptance and this awareness to be able to step into that balance, but then also tip yourself out of the step that balance. You can really reach new levels of growth by expanding on, for example, the senses that we talked about.

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and many of the other concepts that we’ve been talking about here on the podcast so and by connecting with nature, you sort of have this container, this, this natural part of yourself that helps you contribute to this

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relationship or this movement that’s happening between shadow and light within yourself, and you can see the purpose and how these elements, and how these traits connect to the greater world, and how they can be used.

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Okay, let’s let’s get into the heart of it. Let’s get into the heart of what it is that we’re going to talk about relating to this shadow work. Now

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I sometimes feel like a broken record. My multipotential itself sometimes thinks, do they already know the things I’m saying? But then I realize that I had to probably get this bunked into me like, and brought to me in so many different ways before I ever understood it, that it’s like, Oh, you know what I’m going to keep saying this, I’m going to be a little bit like a broken record.

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but a big piece of the work that we do here together, the work that I do with my one on one clients. The work that I do in the naturally conscious community is really about releasing conventional perceptions and conventional norms. Our humanness has so many conditioned beliefs and feelings, especially on this topic.

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the personalities we label some personalities. Now, regardless of whether you’re talking about individual components of a personality inside of one person, or the personality of a person which is usually the dominant personality. We label some as strong, others as weak, some as strengths, lots of them as defects. Right? We often are unable to see that each personality has this range of ways, that it can express itself.

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and that all modes of expression can be useful, even if at times they’re ugly.

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even if at times they’re mean.

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even if at times they’re strong, even if at times they’re fearful.

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all of these ranges of expression of a specific personality.

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if they’re used at the right time

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for the right purpose and in the right amount.

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Write that down right time, right? Purpose, right? Amount

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timing like when to use it. Purpose

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what to use it for amount dosage, or, you know level of it.

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When you figure that out, you will master

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every situation, because, knowing how to do that means that I can take whatever characteristic I have from the thing that society might blanketly label.

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be like to be avoided, and you will find the way to use this and master that skill, master that particular characteristic or trait, the goal is never to get rid of or release, or even truly change from the perspective of

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eliminate something of a personality. What we want is to connect into all of our personalities and get to know them enough to be able to master their abilities.

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Even if society labels those as negative.

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So, for example, I’m going to give you an example for myself, my dominant personality. I believe

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I have come to understand.

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I am still allowing myself to be proven wrong. But I feel pretty strongly where for many people it’s usually the controller or something. That’s not my dominant personality. My dominant personality is the critic.

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the critic and I have been together.

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Since I came into this world.

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and the critic for most of my life, I thought was bad.

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You’ve heard me talk about this before, and I will continue to talk about it because it’s an ever-evolving relationship with this critic.

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But my critical and detailed nature was

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so destructive for so long, and because society just kept telling me, bad, bad, bad girl, bad. Don’t do that.

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I never tried to form a relationship with my critic. I just tried to get rid of my critic. I think I tried to kill off my critic, eliminate my critic, neutralize my critic, if you can think of any film that there is like a negative character that you’re trying to, you know. Just do away with. I probably tried all those techniques to get rid of my inner critic. And it’s not my inner critic. It’s the critic.

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And the reason I say this is because the inner critic is slightly different, and is a different personality, that I think there’s a piece of me that has an inner critic. But it’s not the inner critic. That was my problem. My problem was the critic, the vocal critic.

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My critic likes to break things down. My critic likes to see something and immediately point out all the flaws, and of course.

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pointing out flaws constantly, doesn’t exactly build great teamwork or rapport. So I had to.

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you know, really rethink my relationship with the critic. And once I started learning about personalities, and particularly when I started working with plants

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when a plant was telling me, Hey, you do realize that in nature everything has a function. Have you ever tried to find out what the function of your critic is?

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A whole world opened to me.

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What do you mean? The critic could have a function.

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especially since now I know it’s my dominant. Obviously it has to have a function.

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When I learned that the critic has very specific function. It sees things that others just gloss over.

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It prevents mistakes or worse, dangerous situations. My critic can take a strategic plan and break it into a thousand pieces. My problem was not my critic. My problem is that my critic did not have a counterpart in the presentation of that material. My critic was raw and unfettered. My critic just didn’t have any kind of bedside manner.

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and working with plants helped me understand that everything in an ecosystem has a function, and therefore the critic had a function. But oftentimes for you to realize the benefit of that function you need to find the companion. Whether it’s a companion, plant, a companion animal, a companion function. You know the idea of an orchid with beautiful colors that they put out only work and mean something.

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If the bee comes to pollinate, right, there has to be this relationship, and within our personalities we have the same thing.

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We have the need for this type of relationship, and the other thing is also the dosage. How much of it to use

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plants helped me see that a shadowy side is not always relating to the characteristic, the passion, the talent, the trait itself.

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It was oftentimes around how much of it to use, and in what conditions to use it. Remember, I was telling you about. It’s

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all of those 3 elements that are so incredibly important for you to have. It is the element of understanding, when to use something.

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how it is to use it, and how much of it to use that becomes fundamental in understanding. Because if you think about it from even a very straightforward plan. Perspective

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in a plant with a plant, a poison can also be a cure

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such as an example of. I don’t know. Salicylic acid. Okay, a salicylic acid which is the common ingredient inside of an aspirin is actually a plant hormone. Right? It comes from the willow. The willow tree produces this acid, this salicylic acid.

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And we take this salicylic acid and use it in medicines. But in high levels it’s actually a poison. It can lead to cerebral and pulmonary edema. It could lead to death, it could lead to so many different aspects.

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And so you have to know how to use it, how much of it to use when to use it. You already know the what, because it’s the salicylic acid, but the willow chooses.

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how much salicylic acid to produce, based on what is the goal that’s trying to be achieved. And that’s the same type of mentality that you want to go into personality work.

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You want to go into it by thinking about the personalities that I 1st want to identify all your characteristics, no matter how many, how scary they could be, no matter how they might not be. Something that I actually want to connect to might be something that’s hurt you in the past, or has created some kind of trauma for you in the past. But it doesn’t matter. You want to identify them all because you want to understand their function.

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to master your personality and to integrate, then your personality with other personalities. Because, remember, I told you plants, oftentimes the function needs a collaborator or a companion. Remember my previous episode about tomato and Basil being companion plants, they share information back and forth to one another. That is what makes both of them grow better.

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and it’s the same situation here. My personality has to find the right avenue in which to be explored and used, or in a particular situation, but I also oftentimes will need to have the companion that helps me deliver

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better. So my critic needs to have curiosity, which my curiosity is the other side of that critic, because the critic not only says This is wrong, but my critic says.

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How did you get there?

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And if I lean in to the other aspects of my critic the curious aspects

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I can deliver harsh information in a much more, not just gentle, but in a collaborative way, because when I approach, and I and I kind of grab curiosity, and I say, Hey, curiosity, critic.

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like what’s called strategic side of critic is seeing these flaws. But I need to present this, so can you pull in curiosity and help me

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describe the flaws that I’m seeing through the lens of curiosity. Now, all of a sudden, I’m asking questions. I’m trying to elicit

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a broader picture. I’m accepting the fact that I could also be wrong, because through curiosity I might discover new facts that I never thought about. So when I approach my critic through curiosity, and I have many characteristics within the critic and many characteristics within the aspects of the curiosity, and I kind of throw that lens over like a filter on a light

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all of a sudden that light becomes softer. That light is easier to digest, that light creates collaboration, that light opens to descriptions and to

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explorations together. So getting to know your personalities is about understanding the parts of your personality that you have been relying on, either in a positive or a quote, unquote, negative way, but also, what are the shadowy sides, the sides that are not always bad because we think of shadow work always as bad, but more of what are the things that are on the other side.

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What are the other things that that complement or contribute to or enhance

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some characteristic that you’ve been relying on? Or it could be a whole personality that has another personality that does this function of balancing out or of allowing for better expression. And this is where working with plants, you can start to integrate your personality so much better because personalities require recognition

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without all that judgmenty stuff, right? Judgment

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in this particular case that I’m using. It is a blanket.

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a definition of what you are or what you aren’t, rather than what you really need to apply a personality with is, what are your capabilities?

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What are the opportunities that you give me?

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How can I best use your characteristics and traits and talents in order for them to make my life better for me to be a better contributor. Make a better impact in order for me to accomplish. What am I saying? And let me be very clear here, because this is another one of those places where words sort of kind of make things rough.

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Sometimes

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I let my inner critic not use filter of of curiosity, because if I need to build something up.

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I’ll give you an example. I was recently having a conversation. I was reading a thread on somebody’s Facebook page

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where they were having a conversation on a topic that

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I won’t get into what the topic is, because I don’t want to sideline us with the topic. But it’s 1 of those topics that for me is like

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a fundamental right of being a human being in the world.

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And my, this person was

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basically saying that that right was something that was legislatable, something that somebody else could impose limitations on this right, which to me is

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not acceptable at all.

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So what did I do? I tapped into my inner critic. I took out curiosity for a minute. I put curiosity on hold.

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and I said, Critic, I want you to take this argument, which is something I’m very good at, and I want you to just break the argument down to its most essential element. What this person is saying. I want you to systematically

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show this person how their logic does not reach the conclusion that they want to reach, because they are trying to compare. As I said to a friend of mine

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today, when I was describing this, I said apples to eggs. They’re just not the same thing, and my inner critic is very good. At this I get very quiet inside. I have absolutely no judgment. I wasn’t judging this person’s argument as good or bad, or whatever. I was just seeing the flaw in the logic that the person couldn’t see because they were comparing 2 things that didn’t have anything to do, and more importantly, because curiosity is kind of always there. I was stern.

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but I was also asking questions like, Okay, you want to follow this rabbit hole in this direction. Let’s go down this direction, and eventually let’s see if we get to the flaw in your logic. And so I was asking questions. I never judged the person. I didn’t insult the person. I didn’t. I wasn’t even thinking in that direction. I was thinking more of this is fundamentally not right, and therefore my critic was more connecting to my righteous indignation, which I

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is another personality that I have out there. That is very, very strong.

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and I didn’t filter through curiosity overall to soften it. I needed it to be harsh. I needed my critic to dismantle. I needed my critic to be thoughtful.

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and to make sure that there was no judgment from the perspective of name, calling, or even thinking any of those types of things. I very much highly respect this person. I believe this is a very intelligent person who is mixing things together that don’t mix together, and that

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where there is a piece of their logic that I will never change. And I don’t want to change, because that is their belief system. And I can understand and I can appreciate their belief. But there’s a place where the belief entered into a logic stream that is, in my opinion, not logical at all. And so, therefore I went into it, and I brought, and I needed my critic to be a dismantler. I was not trying to build up teamwork, at least for the majority of this. When I got to near the end.

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I called in the curiosity.

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and I said, Okay, if I want to end this in something that can be useful. I’ve now written this in a way where I know the person will not be personally offended. I have written it with a dismantlement of their logic and argument without them being offended, because there’s nothing for me to be offensive. I did not offend them in any which way. In fact, the person, you know. I could see by the reaction that was clear, that I didn’t offend

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because I did not go against like their belief system or try to tell them that their beliefs were bad, or any of that kind of stuff. My critic can be very good at just the facts, and really going into just the facts.

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and then I called him curiosity, and I said to curiosity, as the other side of this, I said, I need you to help me close this with an opening for conversation. So still, Critic focused.

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but with a opening that says, Hey, you’re trying to throw a red herring in here. How can we look at this differently where we’re really comparing apples to apples, because, if not, we’re not going to go anywhere.

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has taken me.

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Let me say this. I remember being about 26,

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2627 years old.

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lying on the floor at a friend’s house, crying.

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bawling my eyes out, because my critic, at that period of my life was so strong that I was destroying my career. This is how long I have been working on this inner critic

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without recognizing what I’m telling you right now until only the last 10 years.

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But I have been working since my mid twenties on this inner critic, and in reality.

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The critic had been wreaking havoc on my life since I was in probably elementary school. So

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this is this is an argument that it’s a it’s a point of of emotion and of

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Wow! Look at where I’ve come like. Look at where I am, and when I see my own clients take their amazing

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alternative, multi spectrum minds and harness in on the balance.

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so that they can communicate effectively and coherently and confidently on even harsh, dismantling topics, or on super positive like, let’s build it up topics.

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I just. I light up, I light up, and I and I turn to all of my plant collaborators. And I’m like, thank you. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you all, for you know, helping me see this route because that lack of judgment, the one thing that that getting that judgment out of the way, which was for the longest time, and is one of the shadowy sides of my critic, can be judgment.

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But it is an element of criticism, of being critic, but it’s the part that

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looks at something and puts a stamp of right or wrong rather than saying, hey, this way doesn’t work. Can we find another way? It’s very, very different. And so once all of these, once, I step out of the judgment, which means that I don’t. I’m not just trying to

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fight because oftentimes, when you approach a personality through judgment, it’s because you’re still fighting for basic survival like there’s a survival skill in there that’s happening.

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And when your personalities are fighting to survive they go into protector mode. And there’s usually a really big personality that is, the Protector and the Controller and the Protector Controller sort of takes another personality under their wing and just like locks and puts this cover. We’ve talked about this a lot when we do befriend your limiting beliefs, and we’re talking about all the limiting beliefs part which is so connected to these

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personality piece that I’m talking about. And here is where plants are such masterful and gentle partners.

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because your plantness recognizes the importance of all aspects of yourself to create a flourishing ecosystem. Your plantness knows that everything in there can nourish something.

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and it, or to decompose something, because even the decompose decomposing is an important aspect.

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This is all

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a landscape that every single one of the traits within you can be useful in when you learn how to work with them. When your conscious ego, and when that dominant personality can step out of the way and allow another personality to step in.

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when your awareness ego can like say, I don’t judge any of you. I just want to get to know you because I want to work with your consciousness, to be able to pull in. Who is appropriate in that time what it is that they need to do, and

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how much, how strong or how light do they need to be? Because then I might have to add filters. This is all the parts of you that create that

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positive mental health side of you, that flourishing ecosystem, and working closely with plants, or even a full ecosystem, you can more easily tap into those parts

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that know and see the benefit of working together, using everything an organism has to offer, because that’s really what plants have to do in an ecosystem. They have so many different characteristics and traits, and therefore they have to learn how to use them in order to be able to adapt and to

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and to deal with what’s happening in that very moment, and more importantly, to build what might come next to evolve into the direction of what might have. So when you see your own Psyche as an ecosystem, and you apply that ecosystem, thinking where everyone is valuable when used at the right time

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in the right way in the right amount.

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This liberates you from trying to accept or from feeling the need to accept or reject parts of yourself, that all came into this life together. And remember your soul element.

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that whole structure that’s the that’s got a lot of experience that that that whole component of yourself

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kind of knows how to deal with things, and also sees

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sometimes hard times, sometimes anger. That’s a personality I have thrown into the shadows and don’t know how to use. I am learning. I have given myself 2024 was all about learning how to use anger, and

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this last month I am realizing that my work is paying off because anger has become a very wielding and strong force. But you know what the interesting part about that is that in working with anger in a conscious way.

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I have found a whole new level of unconditional love. But that’s again, another story. And I have it written down as a future podcast because there’s a lot to talk about there.

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So your personalities really came to join you to join your soul, your element, because they are exactly what you need to accomplish your life purpose.

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all of it, every single shadowy side. Every single piece that society has told you is bad, that you need to get rid of, that you need to evolve. No, you need to master. You need to look and understand

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how that part works when that part works

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and where you’re going to use that part.

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That’s what you’re really looking to do to master it. And if you’re looking for support to do that, I offer nature inspired mentorship and coaching and life coaching, and I have spent more than a decade, working specifically with plants on all of this.

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so that I can

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help you and share their practical wisdom to get you where you want to go, because together we can explore your own personalities, and how, with the help of these plant partners, you can master all of these many talents that you have even

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even those that you were afraid of

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by seeing your Psyche as an ecosystem, where every personality has its own place.

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you can liberate yourself from the need to judge or reject parts of who you are, you can learn how to embrace.

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and you know you might not always hold all of them close to you, but they’re there.

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They’re willing, and they’re ready. And they want to work with you and working closely with those plants, with plants that have all these different characteristics, and how they apply them to an ecosystem. We learn to value each and every aspect of ourselves, understanding that every personality we possess is an essential for achieving our life purpose

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and embracing this concept of shadow and light as both necessary elements. Right, we, we grow towards light with our heliotropism, or actually, that’s more towards the sun. Our phototropism.

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We grow towards light, but also through the Scototropism we grow through the dark, we grow towards the dark, and we have elements of ourselves that want to grow in both.

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And if you let that wisdom, that plantness within you open up and connect to the plantness outside of you. Right? You can really start to integrate your personalities, and they can find what it is that they need in order to work together in different situations.

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I’d love to hear how it is that you integrate. What have you tried so far to integrate these shadow and light personalities in your daily life? Is it working? Are there aspects of it that you really enjoy? Are there some places where you feel like you’re getting stuck? And have you any had any experiences where plants have helped? You understand these types of deeper parts of yourself?

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I’m so always so curious as to what it is that you learn from working with plants, and how it’s changed, your perception of your own self, of your personalities, of your deep patterns, and of how you approach the world.

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So what’d you think? Did you enjoy this episode? Because I’d love to hear your stories and insights?

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Please please leave me a comment and share your experiences with shadow work and plant wisdom in general. If you’re eager to deep dive into these types of explorations, then join us in the naturally conscious community.

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It is again the only ecosystem that’s created exclusively to nourish these types of relationships where plants are partners and mentors and measure, and as well as sometimes. You know, masters that

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have to. This is another Italian expression. By the way, you can’t see it in the audio. But in the video. You see it. It’s like they’re they’re going to kick your butt. Sometimes. A good kick in the butt isn’t also a very important personality trait to allow to come forward. So

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I hope that you enjoyed this episode. Remember to like to comment and to subscribe. There are many out there just like you seeking a place to discuss these types of plant relationships. And your shares help this podcast reach them and hopefully have them find the naturally conscious community. So that’s it for this episode. Remember to resist the urge to hold back your emerging green brilliance if you need support to do it.

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